Point System

For a 9 year old kid, you're a very busy kid with school and all the different activities you're learning. You like every kid out there who also wants to have time to play with your computer, DS and watch TV. Your mommy came up with a Point System for you to earn time for your favourite activities. For the daily activities that you do well (i.e. Chinese, piano, math and etc or being responsible to certain areas), you get points.

This morning, your mommy came up with additional ideas that can you can earn these points or have deduction on points you've earned. Haha! That is, if you ask a "duh" question, you get 5 points deducted. If you surprise us by good stuff, than you get 5 points. Your mommy, Kelvin, Jody and I can all participate in this part of the point system. What is a "duh" question?? Like this morning when you went to breakfast with your mommy. You asked "Are we there yet?" after your mommy started driving. That obviously is a "duh" question. You got 5 pointed deducted. If you tell us anything that we don't know of and surprise us with the answer, then you get 5 points.

I think this is a great system to get us all be part of it and have fun. With everything you learn in school that at least your mommy and I don't know, I think you'll get a lot of points in no time.

Cheers!

Kaima

Patience

Hello Deon,

I just love to blog all the little moments of yours, you and your family's and ours.

We went to watch Shrek Forever After. Your mommy came as well. This was the second time she came to watch movies with us. She didn't have the luxury of a childhood. She never really watched any cartoons. Needless to say she'd understand them.

We both enjoyed the movie. Your mommy didn't understand all. When the movie was finished, she asked you questions about it. You explained some of her queries. After a few questions, you said, "I'm not saying anymore". I explained to her. She got her questions answered. Mommy then told all you needed was to be a bit more patient.

You know what Deon, your mommy is trying very hard to learn how to be a great mom. She missed out a lot of the childhood moments that most of us had. Understanding cartoon stories is a challenge to her. If u give a little patient to explain, she'll understand and have just as much fun as you do when watching cartoon. I'm sure you realized this as soon as she mentioned to you that you just needed to be a little more patient.

I wish you'll have fun watching all of your cartoon movies with mommy from now on.

;)))
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Life is Good!

Hello Deon,

Ever since the pool was completed in your new house few weeks ago, you have been swimming a lot with your mommy, Kelvin and Jody. Earlier today, your mom sent us a message about you saying "Life is Good!" She even took a picture of you laid down on the beach bed. We thought it was too cute. I have to blog it for you to read back in the future.

Mommy said: De just finished swimming, now taking a nap. All of a sudden, he said "life is good, life is good". Lol

Uncle Eric said: All he needs now is a young girl to feed him grapes and another to fan him.

Uncle Daniel said: I miss the kid already. He's got an old soul in a young body. Not too surprised after spending time with Deon and also hearing some of the stories. Took me a good part of 4 decades to get it and this kid does it in less than 1! Life is unfair. ;-)

You are so cute and "mature" sometimes.

Love you lots!
Kaima

Small Brain, Big Wisdom (小腦袋, 大智慧)

Deon,

Ever since you start going to school, you've learnt so much new stuff. A lot of them even new (or news) to your mommy and I.

I remember your mommy told me about the trip she took you to Australia where you visited LD, your God-Father. Your mommy told me how surprised she was to find out how much you know about all the different things. You guys went to this zoo in Australia, you were able to identify most of the different kinds of animals, mammals, birds and etc. She could only identify some of the them, and mostly just the species family as a whole. She was amazed by how much you know. Once you could find someone whom to could talk to about these subject, or any kinds of subjects that interested you, you became so much more "talkative".

Again, when I was swimming at your house last Saturday while uncle Daniel was visiting your family. Uncle Daniel is another one of your mommy's friend who also knows a lot of things. Your mommy told me that you and uncle Daniel was chatting non-stop about a lot of topics, i.e. science, wild life animal and etc.

For me, I am always amazed how observant you are. I think maybe you were only 4 years old. You could already recognize whether the route was to go to your house or mind. Also, when I started to take you to Granville Island, I didn't tell you the name of the place. I mentioned to Icy (my sister) after we went. You remembered the name and told me the next time of this place we went. I was "wow"!!

With your growing up so fast and learning so much new stuff everyday, your mommy and I will pretty soon have to ask you for answers to a lot of the academic questions. Lol!

Keep it up Deon!

Alarm Clock Setting

One of your favourite TV shows in on every Sunday morning at 7am. You always asked mommy to set the alarm for you to go off at 6:50am. There was this one time your mommy accidentally set the alarm for 6:50pm. You missed that show that morning. You were very upset. However, your mommy discussed this incident with you and explained who's responsibility it was. You realized you were the one responsible to make sure the alarm was set correctly. Ever since that time, you set the alarm yourself.

Last night, I was swimming at your house with you, your mommy and uncle Daniel. You left about 11pm. When you left, you asked mommy if you could set the alarm for 6:56am. That was no problem of course.

After you left, your mommy was telling us about the accident I wrote above. Why did you have to set it at 6:56am and not 6:55 or 6:50? She said you started setting your alarm at 6:50am in the first week. You realized your were a little bit too early. You still had time left after brushing your teeth. You started to start a minute later every week. Your last week was 6:55am. You still found that you were still too early. That was why you set at 6:56am this week. Your mommy even said if you find 6:56am is again too early, then 6:57am next time.

When I heard it, I couldn't help but laugh. Why? That is totally the genes you got from your mother. I was also glad that you took ownership and managed your stuff this well. Great work Deon!

New Background on Blog

Hi Deon,

There were some new background to choose for your blog. I browsed through and picked this one with a hand putting money in a piggy bank. Why did I choose this one?? Well for many reasons.

1. When we were born, we were like an empty piggy bank that had nothing inside, maybe just a lucky penny that mommy gave us. As we grow older, we gain experiences. That is when our piggy bank starting to load up. These experiences will someday turn to wisdom through many process. I hope you will be very open minded to embrace many of your life experiences.

2. This is also your LOVE piggy bank. The more love you generate and save up in your LOVE piggy bank (or the Love Tank in EQ language), the easier it is for you to overcome many obstacles in life.

3. This is also to remind you of money management. Always save for the rainy days.

I hope you like this background. If you wish you change it in the future, please go ahead. :))

Love,

Kaima

Consequences vs. Punishment

Deon,

We all used to use punishment a lot in different situation. The "we" I mention here included your mommy and I of course. Your mommy will punishment you on stuff that you didn't do or you violated some rules. For example, if you didn't do your Chinese homework or didn't practice piano, she would penalize you not to watch TV for a certain amount of time.

Ever since she took the courses in ESP, she realized punishment is not the correct form to teach you on stuff you didn't do. Instead, she realized teaching you the consequences is more important. You will learn directly from the situation itself. Punishment does not make you understand the direct relation, i.e. You are punished to not allow to watch TV for not doing your homework. Your mommy will start teaching you the consequences of every decision you'll make. What do you base it on when you make a decision? What is the consequence of making that decision?

As realized, she told you she would not punishment you anymore. You seem to welcome this decision quite well. I'm sure you'll learn it in a much healthier way with your mommy's guidance.

As you grow older, your mommy is also wanting to grow intellectually and to have greater wisdom. She will always be your role model.......