Meditation

Hey Deon,

One of the activities you enjoy big time is playing on the computer. You're only allowed to play max of 4 times a day during weekend. 30 min max for each time you play. You have to ask mommy, Kel or Jo for permission each time you play.

You often asked mommy for permission just shortly after you played the last time. You would claim you were bored and had nothing to do. The last time you said that, your mommy told your bored was when you were disconnected to yourself. She told you to do some meditation to connect to yourself again. Since then you didn't tell mommy you were bored anymore. Instead, you'd find stuff to do, ie read.

Yesterday morning, your mommy called and told me this:
On Sat night, You and mommy were in her room. She was watching TV and you were reading. Jo didn't go out that night. She kept saying she had nothing to do. Of your new house for 11000sf, all 3 of you "squeezed" in mommy's 250sf bedroom. How ironic?? I remember when you guys temporarily moved to a 1500sf apt in downtown, you guys were all so cranky by bumping to each other all the time and claiming so little space. Now that you guys each have an average of 2750sf to use, you're all in a 250sf room. Lol!!

Anyway, as Jo kept whining for nothing to do and bored, you suddenly told your sister to go do some meditation. Both Jo and your mommy didn't know how to react other than laughed. They were amazed how keep it has "engraved" in your heart about the meditation. I could imagine that scene when your mommy told me. You were so cute!!

Stubborn or Keeping your words

Deon,

Do you know you can be very stubborn sometimes???

Uncle Kam and I were at your house last night for dinner. When I got to your house at 6:45pm, Joyce EE was waiting for u outside in the car. She asked me to tell u to come out. I looked for you when I got in. After some yelling of your name, I found out you were downstairs with Kel. I went down to tell to you go out. You said it wasn't 6:50pm yet. I told you Joyce EE had been waiting. When your mommy and I told you it didn't matter for just the difference of few minutes. You didn't seem to care and just kept emphasizing it wasn't 6:50pm. Your eyes were even turning watery as if you were being penalized for not sticking to your words. You just would not change once a rule is set.

You know what Deon, mommy and I do appreciate you keeping your words. We also don't want you to drill on the promise for the sake of a promise if there are other ways that can make the situation better for everyone, ie Joyce EE in this situation. If you would go out sooner, since you were only playing with Kelvin, then Joyce EE wouldn't need to wait, you would finish practicing piano sooner and come back to play with Kelvin again. You would not lose any playing anytime at the end. You see!

Finding alternatives from being grounded - Feb 6, 10

Amy was busy tonight, so I brought you to my place to sleep over. When I picked you up, Amy told me that you were grounded from DS, TV and computer (your 3 favourite activities) due to teachers' complaint and you weren't doing well in piano. All you could do was read. You downloaded some books to Amy's eReader to bring it to my place. Off we left.

It was not too long after we got in the car, you asked if we could get a board game to play with. Well, you sure isn't a "duh" kid. You thought of the alternatives right-a-way other than reading. Since I don't have any board games at home, so I said yes. We went home first for about an hour then we headed for dinner. When we got home, you didn't bother to bring your stuff up to my apt. You said you didn't want to. Those stuff that you didn't bring it included the eReader.

We went to White Spot on Cambie & 12th. White Spot is your favourite restaurant for dinner. Every time we go out for dinner, you have to go WS, no other suggestions you'd go for. You always order the Pirate Pal from the Kids Menu.

During dinner, I asked you why you didn't bring the stuff to my place again. You still said you didn't want to. I asked you if you'd hided the eReader. You said "no". I continued and said what if someone walked by and broke the car window and stole all of your stuff including the eReader? You looked at me with a little shock face. I said we should hide the stuff that are valuable to us if we decided to leave them in the car so to avoid accident like this happen. I wanted you to be more aware of the stuff you got and take care of them, whether they are yours or someone else's. I asked you what would you do if what I said did happen when we went to get our car? I think by then you realized the possibilities of losing the valuable stuff and got scared. You kept saying, "can we change to another topic?" You probably were a little worried to answer.

When dinner was served, you ate very happily. You also played with the straw from your drink. You sticked the straw in between your teeth and asked me to pull it out. I took a few pictures from my blackberry and captured this look.

After dinner, we went to Toy R Us and got a Sponge Bob board game. It was more like the 飛行棋 I used to play when I was little. This has more features. We played a game. Of course, you won.

Oh......when we got home. You proudly told me that your packed everything into the little back pack and brought it up to my place. Cute kid.... :)