No more Kai Ma???

Hi Deon,

I'm not sure if there was anything I did recently. You haven't been willing to call me as "Kai Ma" for a while. I didn't take seriously. Last Sunday when you came to my place, I asked to you call my cleaning lady "Hi Auntie". You insisted of just calling "Hi". I asked a few times, and you still wouldn't change. I told you calling people my name or by their ranking (auntie, uncle) is something is important coming to my place. You chose to stand by the door for not calling instead of to come in and sit down.

I tried to explain to you. You seemed you understood. You said you would want people to call you by your name, not just "Hi"; and you do the same to people. The truth was you were not doing it. I couldn't understand why. I know if it was your mommy who asked you to call people by name or ranking, you'd do it without delay. I also tried to find out why you haven't been willing to call me "Kai Ma". Of course, I didn't have an answer from you.

When I called you on Monday night (just the next day), you even called "Hi Pandora". I asked if that was how you want to call me from now on. You first said yes then you said no. I wasn't mad at all, but was wondering "hm.....what happened between us?"

I'm not sure if there was anything I did that upset you. You don't seem to want this Kai Ma around. If this is the case, I am pretty okay with it. We didn't give you a choice to have this Kai Ma. We only told you I am your Kai Ma. Whether I'm your Kai Ma or not, I still love you as who you are. However, I'd like to find out what caused your attitude changed toward me. Was it something you felt I changed. Like your mommy said "action and reaction". I hope to do better next time if I am going to be a Kai Ma again. No matter what, as long as you live happily and healthily, it really doesn't matter if I'm your Kai Ma or not. :))

Love you lots!

Good Night!

Hello Deon,

On Thursday night when your mommy just left to Thailand til next Sunday. You called me at 8pm. I thought there was something you needed that was why you called.  You said you just wanted to say. You knew the nanny was usually on the phone from 8 or 8:15pm. You wanted to call ealier to make sure you could say Good Night. That was so cute of you!

I wondered why you called since you never did.  When we went out for dinner last night.  I asked what made you called me to say Good Night??  Your answer broke my heard, lol!  You said you were only calling mommy's # to hope that she'd pick up so you could say Good Night to her.  Since I picked up the phone, you said Good Night to me instead; knowing mommy didn't have her phone with her.  At least I have to give you credit for being honest.  Well only 50 % honesty you had there.  Why?  Because you said that night you called to say Good Night to me and didn't mention that you were actually calling your mommy.   Sooo, I guess you have your mom's "twisted words" blood as well eh?

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3D Movie

My Dearest God-Son,

I remember it was last year when I took you to watch Monster vs Alien 3D cartoon.  It was your first time watching a 3D cartoon.  We went in just before the movie started.  The theatre was packed.  We had to sit at the front, like row 4 or 5.  

The movie started, we put on our 3D glasses.  It was too long after the movie started, the 3D images started to make you dizzy.  You even felt sleepy.  So cute!!  

I had to go to my friend's shop to pick up something after movie.  When we went in, I asked you to say hi to those aunties.  You refused to do.  You were so tired.  You were giving me some temper tantrum.  I thought you were funny!

You even said you'd never watch a 3D movie again.  Do you remember we went to watch another 3D movie a few months later?  That was the G-Force.  We went with Justin and Auntie Anne.  That time, we sat close to the top and far from the screen.  You were fine.  I know we'll watch a lot more 3D movies cus 3D is the norm now.  In fact, we said we'd watch "Who Train the Dragon" in Spring.

Rule Bound Kid

Hey Deon,

You really are a rule bound kid u know???

You have a school handbook that is to be signed by your mommy everyday. You often forgot. Teacher complaints a few times. Your mommy decided to make sure this is your responsibility. She made you a sheet with stuff you have to do everyday. When it's done, u can put a check mark beside it so you know you've done it. Your mommy told you to put the handbook on her desk everyday so she will sign it. That's because she may not be home every evening to sign and give it right back to you. Once you do that, you can put a check mark on it. Mommy will give it back to you after it's signed.

Last night, you gave the handbook to mommy to sign in person, instead of leaving on her desk. She then left to her Writing Class. When she got home, she saw your handbook was put on her desk when she signed it already. She went up to your room. Guess what she saw??? She saw you put a checked mark on the sheet for putting the handbook on her desk. Why would you put the handbook there when it's already signed??? Was is just because you could check it off that you've done it regardless it was already signed? Do you know the reason behind putting the handbook there?
In our opinion, you did it because it was on the list. It appeared that you don't understand the reason behind it. Both mommy and I don't want you to do it because it was a rule. We don't want to see you do things because it was the rule. Rule is a fear based. We want you to understand the reason behind it.

Your mommy will have a tough homework to do in her "ha kong" days now. That is to help you see and do things that you understand the reason. :))
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